“No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave.”
– Calvin Coolidge, American President
When faced with an opportunity to give in any way, whether it is time, talent, money, or possessions, something on the inside has to happen. Priorities and perspective come into play.
If the decision to give is easy, it is likely to be one of two reasons. Either what you are giving is a very small portion of what you have or your priorities are such that a sacrifice on your part is well worth the positive impact on others.
Now, if the decision to give is difficult, it is likely to be one of these two reasons. Either the cost is so great that the price is too much to bear or your priorities are such that the positive impact on others is not worth a personal sacrifice.
Please understand I’m not talking about giving your house away when you have a family to take care of. I’m not talking about giving all your money away when you have bills to pay and a family to feed.
A good leader needs to understand the value of giving especially when it costs you something. When there is personal sacrifice with the right attitude it has a lasting impact on your people.
People will follow a leader who is willing to give of himself; someone who genuinely wants to make a positive difference in the lives of others. When the people you lead know your heart as one that gives of self, they will be able to accept the times when you have to have that tough conversation with them for the sake of growth and learning. It’s really human nature. If you know that your boss genuinely cares about you and shows that by giving of himself and sacrificing his time and energy, you are far more likely to accept it when you need to be disciplined. Let’s face it, we all need a swift kick every once in a while.
If you really struggle with giving ask yourself this; “Am I satisfied with what I have or am I constantly in pursuit for more?” If you are constantly in pursuit of more, honestly challenge your perspective of where you are and what you have. Take a good look at your life and you might find you have more to be thankful for than you realize. Our world is a constant bombardment of reminders of what’s out there that we don’t have. We have to stop for a minute and think about what we do have.
Final thought, to be a true giver you have to find and appreciate the true joy and satisfaction in seeing others grow and prosper. When that is a true desire in your heart, giving becomes easy.